Year: 2009

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Happy Birthday

I think, with one thing or another, my birthday got kind of over looked. Quite understandable and I wasn’t overly bothered if I am honest. All the same it was OK. Matt & Anne came over as did Anna & Paul and Adam too … quite a group of special people … speaking of ‘special’ people in a different sense … (I need to explain a little recent history)

When James left he did so owing me rent. I told him that I would hold on to his TV until he paid what he owed. It would be fair to say he got quite off about that but then, I expected that but also expected that he’d ultimately agree and pay up.

Back up to date again and last night … Andy was on the phone to me saying happy birthday and apologising for not being at home personally to see me when André and Anastasia turned up. I was polite but André was rude as hell … the opening line being … “get the TV”. I did tell him that this was my house, that if he wanted to talk to me then he’d best be doing it with some respect but it didn’t change his mind at all. There were a few more demands from him then he eventually accepted he’d have to pay £40 before he could get it. He was then rude again so I told him to leave and he refused. The girls in the room were scared by this point. He then said that “Either you get the TV or I will” So I told him to leave again unless he changed his attitude so he said “Please can I have the TV”. I told him, yes he could, just as soon as he’d paid the £40 when I think was the time he said I was being childish. He handed out the £40, I took it, got the TV and off he went being quite smarmy and just sick really. A totally horrible man in every respect.

So, could have done without that on my birthday but, idiots like him don’t scare me any longer, I am way past all that. The man was just annoying twat.

James is not doing himself any favours with Daisy right now, which is annoying. Seems each time they talk he makes matters worse which means Daisy gets upset and it costs me more money on the phone!

Spoke to a social worker for Daisy earlier, seems nice enough and says he’ll try and get the whole social worker thing working together rather than against each other, we shall see. I cannot imagine Rachel at the laeaving care team ever giving any ground on her secretive little relationship with James.

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Happy Birthday

I think, with one thing or another, my birthday got kind of over looked. Quite understandable and I wasn’t overly bothered if I am honest. All the same it was OK. Matt & Anne came over as did Anna & Paul and Adam too … quite a group of special people … speaking of ‘special’ people in a different sense … (I need to explain a little recent history)

When James left he did so owing me rent. I told him that I would hold on to his TV until he paid what he owed. It would be fair to say he got quite off about that but then, I expected that but also expected that he’d ultimately agree and pay up.

Back up to date again and last night … Andy was on the phone to me saying happy birthday and apologising for not being at home personally to see me when André and Anastasia turned up. I was polite but André was rude as hell … the opening line being … “get the TV”. I did tell him that this was my house, that if he wanted to talk to me then he’d best be doing it with some respect but it didn’t change his mind at all. There were a few more demands from him then he eventually accepted he’d have to pay £40 before he could get it. He was then rude again so I told him to leave and he refused. The girls in the room were scared by this point. He then said that “Either you get the TV or I will” So I told him to leave again unless he changed his attitude so he said “Please can I have the TV”. I told him, yes he could, just as soon as he’d paid the £40 when I think was the time he said I was being childish. He handed out the £40, I took it, got the TV and off he went being quite smarmy and just sick really. A totally horrible man in every respect.

So, could have done without that on my birthday but, idiots like him don’t scare me any longer, I am way past all that. The man was just annoying twat.

James is not doing himself any favours with Daisy right now, which is annoying. Seems each time they talk he makes matters worse which means Daisy gets upset and it costs me more money on the phone!

Spoke to a social worker for Daisy earlier, seems nice enough and says he’ll try and get the whole social worker thing working together rather than against each other, we shall see. I cannot imagine Rachel at the laeaving care team ever giving any ground on her secretive little relationship with James.

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O.F.F.S.

Look, this is how it is.

What is it now? 8 months? Well, anyway, since October last year.
You know, ‘The James thing’. Summary … he lied and manipulated to get here in the first place. Don’t get me wrong, James has the potential to be an amazing guy, I am convinced that he is an amazing person but his inability to trust has ruined everything. I have worked harder to make things work for him than I have worked for anyone. I wanted to help him, I wanted, once I found out, to make it work for him and Daisy. Once I found out they were expecting a baby I tried to help him be a great dad but, he had a different agenda. James is so used to getting his own way and ‘his’ way that he couldn’t see that he could have what he wanted, everything he wanted just by waiting and being calm, enjoying life. He chose, instead, to be try for the quick route. It is what he does.
Everything which could be tried has been tried. Every compromise given. He has left so many times, offered so many apologies, left again, apologised and all along, insulted me and Deej, shown very little respect at all. The dumb thing is, I don’t think he actually dislikes us. I think he took his anger about his dad out on me particularly. I am just guessing but it seems to fit.
Daisy admits that only 2 out of 7 days can she go the whole day happy. That’s a right shame because James could have changed, made a real effort and it could have worked.
The problem is, he’s been so fixated on the end game of getting him and Daisy into their own flat he has totally ignored the before part whereby he proves to Daisy she can trust him.
Anyway, Daisy has been hurting mega amounts and finally, today she cracked. She gave him a chance to make it all OK but he rejected the chance and, instead, just insulted me more and would not agree with Daisy so …
… Time ran out, so did Daisy’s patience and, sorry to say, he and Daisy have finally parted.
She had no choice though, she desperately wanted him to agree to what he needed to agree to but it wasn’t to be.
James did eventually send an apolog text to me but, it was too late. He needed to have said it earlier instead of making things so much worse with his childish insults.
I can’t see a way of helping him any more, I’d hate to be him as he’s screwed up the most amazing thing he has so far had in his life.
Sorry James, I wanted to help, you rejected it over and over.
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O.F.F.S.

Look, this is how it is.

What is it now? 8 months? Well, anyway, since October last year.
You know, ‘The James thing’. Summary … he lied and manipulated to get here in the first place. Don’t get me wrong, James has the potential to be an amazing guy, I am convinced that he is an amazing person but his inability to trust has ruined everything. I have worked harder to make things work for him than I have worked for anyone. I wanted to help him, I wanted, once I found out, to make it work for him and Daisy. Once I found out they were expecting a baby I tried to help him be a great dad but, he had a different agenda. James is so used to getting his own way and ‘his’ way that he couldn’t see that he could have what he wanted, everything he wanted just by waiting and being calm, enjoying life. He chose, instead, to be try for the quick route. It is what he does.
Everything which could be tried has been tried. Every compromise given. He has left so many times, offered so many apologies, left again, apologised and all along, insulted me and Deej, shown very little respect at all. The dumb thing is, I don’t think he actually dislikes us. I think he took his anger about his dad out on me particularly. I am just guessing but it seems to fit.
Daisy admits that only 2 out of 7 days can she go the whole day happy. That’s a right shame because James could have changed, made a real effort and it could have worked.
The problem is, he’s been so fixated on the end game of getting him and Daisy into their own flat he has totally ignored the before part whereby he proves to Daisy she can trust him.
Anyway, Daisy has been hurting mega amounts and finally, today she cracked. She gave him a chance to make it all OK but he rejected the chance and, instead, just insulted me more and would not agree with Daisy so …
… Time ran out, so did Daisy’s patience and, sorry to say, he and Daisy have finally parted.
She had no choice though, she desperately wanted him to agree to what he needed to agree to but it wasn’t to be.
James did eventually send an apolog text to me but, it was too late. He needed to have said it earlier instead of making things so much worse with his childish insults.
I can’t see a way of helping him any more, I’d hate to be him as he’s screwed up the most amazing thing he has so far had in his life.
Sorry James, I wanted to help, you rejected it over and over.