Month: July 2015

Not that I remember much of it and, no, no booze involved just busy and enjoying life.

Dennis makes me stupidly happy. I could just sit and look at him all day but not today. Today he helped me with something I was going to do on my own. I am not used to this having a boyfriend thing so, was glad when it just sort of came together. I needed to get a collection of tracks together to listen to in the car. My last one was a bit too familiar so I needed some good music to add. Dennis came up with quite a few I’d forgotten I loved.

The past couple of days, thanks to tech, we’ve had meals together, me, Dennis and the family over there. It’s good to discover what we’re each eating.

Obviously I wish he were a short or even long drive away, it’s horrible not being able to be together but, we can wait, we’re making plans.

We’ve had Matt, Anne and the children over today too which is always good.

Started playing Minecraft on the Xbox One tonight. Matt & Sean had been at me for ages to do it. It’s not so bad as it happens, 4 hours seemed to just go. I don’t think my first attempt was so terrible at building.

I turned up this morning at 9am and we went through all the possible issues which could still exist with the Ray Ban glasses. It didn’t make sense that if they were the same prescription as the Superdry glasses I am wearing that they should be OK.

Now, on the subject of the Superdry glasses

I was given these because when the lenses turned up, or so I was told, they were not verifocal but single vision lenses. I discovered today that they are verifocal so, in effect, there is no real problem with these glasses.

Anyway, we decided at 10:45 that we’d get my sight checked again and rather than trying again to get lenses in the Rayban frames that I’d prefer it if they used the Ted Baker frames instead.

So, I had a short break then went back again at 12:20, got my eyes checked and they are going to increase the prescription slightly but not so much that I cannot switch between glasses, my vision should be just slightly improved using the Ted Baker option.

Left there finally today at 1:15

All I need to do now is wait as long as it takes to get the Ted Baker pair back and, with any luck, I will be able to see through them.

I knew the tyres on the front were a little low, borderline illegal but, I was showing Robin earlier and discovered a large nail in the rear tyre.

Fair to say I am very thankful I don’t pay for the three tyres which needed to be replaced! Would have come to the best part of a grand, ouch!

Some may ask why I went into so much detail yesterday. You know, I’d really rather not have to. Sadly, so many people are judgemental. Each have their little opinions and, even when they don’t voice those opinions it’s so easily obvious to tell.

For example, I know if I were dating a man from England and meeting him each day for an hour so many people would be involved wanting to know how it is going, wanting to meet him, know more about him just as it should be. Because my man doesn’t live in this country is almost like the elephant in the corner, the awkward subject people don’t like to talk about because, basically, they are just waiting for it all to go wrong and … after all, everyone has heard those horror stories of how British people get robbed by Johnny Foreigner.

Well, my answer to that is yes, of course that goes on. Then again, it’s not so damn wonderful here when we have partners who cheat on us, some get beaten up and so on, no one can ever be totally certain of what they’re getting themselves into. But, just because there are some negative experiences, should that mean we never try, that we are so racist that we don’t think we can give some support to our friends and family who are succeeding in maintaining a difficult long distance relationship? The feelings involved are just as real. Having little to no acknowledgement feels quite awful.

This is the reality though … I have stupidly strong natural feelings for Dennis and I am certain he has for me too. Us two are both going to give a relationship our absolute best shot, really work at it. We probably have more in depth conversations than many other couples do seeing as we can’t really just sit in front of the TV ignoring each other all evening and class that as getting to know each other.

Yesterday Dennis did something that I’ve dreamed of a man doing my entire life. Sure, technology let us down but he sang to me and I joined in. That might seem trivial to some but, it was quite magical to me.

So, Dennis is Dennis, he’s not someone else, he’s not any of the people I’ve known before, he’s his own person with his own qualities and values. I am going to ask you to trust me that I know he is genuine and totally honest and that what we do we will decide together.

I know not everyone is against this, obviously not, many are totally happy to see how happy I am. Should anyone be against it then please, if you have nothing good to say and you don’t want to support me and Dennis then, stay away, we don’t need you.

So, I shouldn’t need to justify anything but, I do.

It’s been lovely to get those message of support I got yesterday by the way. It would be even more lovely if you were to post a comment here or on Facebook so Dennis can see he’s got support here. Hell, just imagine how scary it could feel coming to a country where others might think you’re less than honest, can you imagine that? As my boyfriend I’d like you to respect Dennis, he’s totally lovely as you will hopefully some day discover for yourself.